What's a lock without a key....

Relationships ARE complicated...BUT the hard work involved is SO worth it :)
This is how i see it....kids are like locks....and parents hold that 'big brass ring of keys'
[u know the one i mean...like in the movies or on cartoons]
Keys of all shapes and sizes and some that just plain won't work...
[maybe there are even 'keys' for other peoples kids on your 'key-ring'..lol]
just to keep things.... interesting !

U have to look for and find the key/keys.... before u can turn that lock...

Here is a breakdown of my 3 'key' relationships

I practice 'attachment parenting'...Google it if you like...

Love it or hate it...i really don't care...!

It's my preferred style of mothering :)
I have taken from it what feels right to me and run with it...

Bradley - we are close... he is still my 'baby'

Brandon - we are close... he and i are cut from the same cloth

Bianca-Leigh - we are close... we are 'BELIEBERS' together

Let me explain...for those not 'in the know'...a Belieber is a passionate Justin Bieber fan

My relationship with Bianca has previously not always been as 'close' as i would have expected... or indeed would have liked it to be...

THE LOVE between us HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE...
in closeness she blows hot and cold...

Bianca kinda keeps us all at arms length just a little bit u see and i for one did not want 'things' with my ONLY daughter to be 'that way'.... outnumbered by the Y chromosome as i am...!

And i wasn't gonna give her up without a fight, to be sure !

So just like a Lioness lying low in the grass....driven by instinct...

 i watched and waited....

My moment came when about 4 years ago...

she started showing a significant interest in a young dude by the name of Justin Bieber...

 and she started to talk about this and that to do with him....he then exploded onto the music scene and because she was following his every move [social media is amazing!] and talking about him A LOT... I was intrigued... 

 at first... it was just to 'show an interest' in ones child... as one does.... and then [deeper... and deeper...] to have something in common with her .... something to chat about... that's when i 'hatched my plan' and it became.... something to 'bond' over...

 .... i now too am a fan of his....how could i not be....

 it's easy when u know as much about him as i do....lol

She has bought all his cds and listened to them OVER and OVER... ask Brandon [who is not a fan] 'We' have watched all his tv appearances ... bought all his book and read them too ... her and i went to watch his movie together....and then bought the dvd...and had a movie night...[making all the boys watch too] and so the list goes... on and on....I was there with the purchase of every poster for her wall and every magazine that ever did [even maybe] mention his name :)  One moment however, stands out for me...my most treasured memory is one of me going into her bedroom at 1am to find her awake and very animated [unusual for her] ... she told me that a friend on bbm had alerted her to the fact that Justin Bieber was coming to SA for a concert... *FINALLY* .... i was happy for her and told her so and took myself off back to bed...or so i thought...  by the time i got there...only a short walk later...  i was properly awake and excited in my own right .... i lay down...changed my mind...sat up... and slipped out of bed again... walking back towards her room...  i got in at the foot of her bed and there in the dark... with winter swirling around us...like dreams... i set about creating a special memory for us... we chatted about this new development...and how she never thought he would ever come to sing here.... how neat it would be if we could swing a couple of tickets...how it was something to look forward to.... she just couldn't believe it was really going to happen.......the next morning when she was telling her Dad the 'good news'... that's when Edwin and i realized that the 'pressure was well and truly on us' to perform when the time came....and that we would pay just about anything to make this dream come true for her.... also that it was probably going to be SUPER tough to secure those tickets....! and now 'Bieber-Time' is almost upon us....tickets for his #BELIEVE tour 2013 go on sale soon...wish us luck.... and through it all she and i have grown closer and closer....I very happily have found this 'key'  :)

POST SCRIPT...

The weekend before the tickets went on sale...

nerves were ON for Monday morning...

would 'Operation Bieber' be a success....?

We took the kids on an outing...

to play 'pitch and putt'

and when this pink golf ball became ours...

 we took it as a sign...

:)

To our ecstatic amazement ....

we got 2 golden circle tickets !

smiles all around :)